Why people work hard? Different POV

 Having been through a lot in my pursuit of excellence and still in suffering mode when people, even your family label you as Naa Shukri, Complainer, Whiner etc. after you have enough on your plate made me realize that why are we a Deteoriating society? and callousness has already reached its peak here. I cant say about others as I have not yet experienced the life abroad because despite my so much wishes to at least visit abroad once, I am unable to go and have a time of my life yet. Fingers crossed, I have many hopes from Allah to make my future brighter like a shining bulb. Though the present doesn't seem to be very promising but hope lasts with life and a momin shouldn't lose faith on Almighty.

So coming towards the topic. I am writing this topic with an extremely heavy heart as I can share everything here without the fear of being judged and I am sure many of my readers can relate as they must be suffering from the same or at least similar. Life is hard for everyone and it has its own nature of hardness and degree for all. 

Why I am writing this? because I have experienced it quite recently. Why do people achieve greatness? To make a name for themselves, for fame, power and money or to achieve something in life. Why do people in Pakistan are achieving greatness nowadays? peer pressure, rishty daaron ko neecha dikhana, to attain power and then abuse it to bury their enemies and coerce the poor. Literally wherever you see, in whichever field, people are studying harder than ever, marks are getting sky rocketed but jobs; nil or very few and who get the job? who has a better approach/sifarish. This leads to a surge of finding some relative who is on a key post or has better connections and buttering, bribing starts. People have started this thing that the poor and helpless are looked down upon and those who have wealth, fame or power are regarded as mighty and high. 

I am a dr so most of the people I know who are suffering from this are drs. I am sure this cancer must be everywhere. What I want to write here and what I have experienced is something I cannot write fully. People become seniors and occupy key posts only to have power and authority so they can abuse it (not use it for peaceful purposes) The biggest example of this amongst the nations we have recently observed which has been a taboo to say as you get blocked and stuff. Though I am with the oppressed from my heart but I have never spoken a word about it.

House officers being abused by trainees, who in-turn are abused by consultants, who in-turn are abused by Senior management who suffer at the hands of beaurucrates, politician etc. This bullying and abuse culture has deeply penetrated in our nation where younger siblings are being beaten and bullied by the older ones and the parents are unable to control it. Sometimes its vice versa too which is not the case as you grow older. 

Despite of the clear warning by Allah Almighty at many places. With great position comes great responsibility which leads to greater accountability. But the later parts have been forgotten by the ones in authority and we say we cant change our society. I am not talking about corruption or red tapism. I am talking about a very very simple phenomena of daily life which we can control easily. If one person changes for better, we can ultimately change the society. 

Teach the elder siblings to be kind and gentle to youngers and teach the younger ones to be respectful towards the elders. As a mother, that's the most we can do and with time we can change the whole society. Because mothers tend to follow other mothers and kids copy each other. As a other-in-law, be kind and gentle to your daughter-in-law, don't pry in her privacy and don't be too over bearing. Share your son as she deserves her husband too. As a daughter-in-law, be respectful to your MIL and treat her like husband's mother and share your husband as she is his mother, ignore small arguments. As a husband, be kind to your wife and kids just like Islam taught you. As a man, keep your tharak to your wife or at least someone interested. Don't try to shower your tharak on majboor inferiors as Allah is watching.